We are always making plans, fantasizing, creating our future. That's what we were made for: inventing our own stories. Of course, this is not something bad. That's part of each one of us; it's human nature. That's the essence of mankind. What makes you keep on going, and have the strength to move on is the art of dreaming and continue having expectations, no matter how many times you've faced frustration.
Fortunately, on the one hand, many steps of our lives go according to plans, they happen exactly as we expect. However, on the other hand, we are forced to see some of our deepest desires simply fade away. Obviously it is extremely sad. But it's exactly because we don't have a crystal ball that we can't predict what God (or fate, destiny, whatever it is that you believe in) has planned for us. For that reason, something I know for sure is that we need to be ready for whatever. All the time!
Well, I have to admit that sometimes we can be shocked. For a devastating situation, it's necessary for us to give ourselves a little more time to get over, shake off the dust, and move on. Some other times, the effects in our lives are minor. No matter how hard the problem may seem, it always gets to a certain point where you have to let go of the sorrow and the grief and move forward. We need to learn to see through all the agony and see what's beyond that. If possible, look at the bright side. Because the show must go on!
It is evident that, when we make plans, there are some tools we need to provide ourselves with to make them work. If the plan is to ace your final exams, you need to study really hard. If you want to get in shape, you need to start a diet, work out, exercise, massage, have plastic surgery, gastric bypass, or whatever more appropriate method each person can decide. If it is to live the love of your life, leave a whole freedom behind so that you can dedicate yourself exclusively to this one person. In a nut shell, what I mean is that no matter what the plan is, we usually make a lot of effort to see them work as perfectly as we expect.
Nevertheless, despite all our best intentions, we have to understand that things don't necessarily depend on us and how willing we are to make them happen. There are millions of external circumstances that can interfere and are simply our of our control. It can be a weather change that can ruin your vacation at the beach. It may be a pothole in the middle of the highway that can cause you to be late for a job interview. It can be the rain that messes up your hair just after you leave the hairdresser. A ton of things can happen that you couldn't possibly have predicted...
Therefore, you can only conclude that there are no magic formula capable of making you know in advance what goals you should pursue and which ones you should ignore. No one can tell you beforehand how much you should feed your illusions, how much time you should invest on your dreams, or where the limit behind reality and fantasy is. The best way of finding that out is actually living. Otherwise, you'll spend your whole life based on hypothesis... and I've said that a million times, but "IF" doesn't exist. If you live based in assumptions of what might happen or not, you'll see your life go by, fearing frustrations, avoiding intense feelings for the sake of not suffering later on. And before you notice, you'll be an old person full of regrets because you just spent your life existing, instead of being...
Having said that, my belief is that you shouldn't regret anything. Not because you have never done anything wrong, but because you realize you allowed yourself to live and try. It might not have worked properly, but how would you know if you didn't try?
So what happens from now on is in your hands. It's your choice. It is your responsibility to decide what to do and see where your fantasies lead you to. If you find out later on it's a sinking ship, just save yourself using the lifeboats. Forget about your previous bets, what you have invested. Just move on. The price you pay for your mistakes must be much worse if you just act like a stubborn and stay there doing nothing. Keep the best memories and go on with your life. Create new stories, make new plans, seek other dreams. But if you still believe there's solution for the problem, go after it. Don't give up.
Your path, only you can decide. No one else can do it for you. It's just important to put our thoughts together so that we can analyze clearly which direction we should take. If we should push a little bit more, or if we need to face it and give it up. It's never late to make decisions. It's never late to take the first step. And it's never late to step back.
Nobody can change the past, so there's no need to hold on to it. The future itself doesn't exist. When it comes, it become present. So the only time you can actually do something is right now. Yesterday is past and tomorrow may never come. So...
DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO!!!!
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